Liberté, Fraternité, Égalité

French flagNow I am no fan of bloody revolutions – their history too often leave rivers of blood, carnage  of bodies and the survivors disenfranchised only in a different way to that for which their brothers, sisters, parents, lovers and friends have been mowed down on the liberation fields.

Yet sitting in this currently drab concourse outside the Hotel De Ville, a concourse drab only because of the recent rain and unseasonal closing of the sun hardened locals both French and English, and whose magnificence will shortly blossom as the spring sun returns to warm and enlighten the creamy yellow stonework, I am reminded of the success of the French Revolution. If nothing else it forced the chefs onto the streets and kickstarted the restaurant trade so delivered of the gastronauts. But more, the power remains with both people and the politicians. The lowliest commune has its Mairie, elected in cases by only large handfuls of locals keen to ensure that their voices are heard and they get more than their fair share of the Euros coursing through the corridors of Paris. The farmers, perhaps still the peasant class and proud of it, exercise their power to close the local supermarché, the shoppers patiently waiting to be allowed into the Glass Palace this is a harbinger of mortality to the way of life lived for so long.

Liberté – not to be controlled

Fraternité – all in this together

Égalité – we are all humans

I don’t know if it is worth fighting for, is anything, but it is certainly worth having.

What matters to me?

An exercise for which the brief was to write about what matters to me, knowing that there was no intention of sharing it with others in the group. Well, I am happy to share it with the world. This is the first piece that has been edited – only very slightly.

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InnerLove“What is it that matters to me?”

Where to start – people, places, things, experiences? All of these and yet none of these, for love can attach itself to any or all of them; and love of myself rises above them all. For unless I can love myself, then how can I truly love anyone or anything else?

Love is not blind, love comes from knowing that I am meeting my own inner needs, even when that need is to please or care for or support another. For love is not unitary – there lies narcissism – love is of the universe and involves and affects the universe. Love stands both alone and accompanied above all material things; providing inspiration and support and the way to find a route through the most difficult times. “I love you” provides both hope and reassurance, it offers both the giver and the receiver the prospect of a bright and thrilling future. Between lovers, friends, colleagues, acquaintances and even enemies it can lay a platform on which to build, a basis for co-operation and a safe and touching closure when times have been tough.

It matters that I am loved, yet that can only happen if I am able to love others. It is a gift that need never expire, unlike that gift voucher or bunch of flowers. The words seem to carry more meaning when spoken than when written or embodied in some artefact, yet even those can still be touching reminders – the photo of a loved one in the wallet, a faded wedding bouquet, the coffee cup bought in a tiny village in Cuba, the painting of irises hanging above the fireplace. They carry love, but the are not love itself, for love itself resides only in my heart and in your. A touch, a glimpse, an overheard word, all reminders of your presence and my inner comfort.

John Lennon was right.

Chocolate

This piece was prompted by my choosing the word “chocolate” from a word hoard we created – in itself an interesting exercise in eliminating the ‘editor’ that so usually moderates the connection between our first thought and what we choose to communicate. For some reason the exercise reminded me of Wittgenstein’s concept of ‘underthought’.

Chocolate HeartChocolate

She won’t be thinking of chocolate right now, far too many other pressures and demands. It turns out to have been a greater present than I could have ever thought, bringing so many people (as well as so few) together in a melee of warm, moist, smelly, edible fun. The tables draped for protection, the carpeted floor covered, everyone provided with their own protective cocoon against the delightful mess. It started well, they worked together – mother and daughter finally in symbiosis; each knowing their roles yet helping each other. Brought together by a singular love.

The life intervened. What could have been a luscious future was torn apart in a single short conversation – he wasn’t bothered about customers, only to make money. Trust broken, relationship ended, thankfulness or thoughtfulness absent.

What’s to learn? Don’t rely on others, they risk letting you down? Look after your own needs yet be both in dependent and inter-dependent? It starts with love, then work follows on, then love wins out in the end.

So here is to chocolate making, life’s lessons enrobed in a crisp, dark, sensuous skin. Look beneath the skin, there is always something interesting once you break the surface. Break your own skin, encourage others to break theirs – you cannot find their fillings for them but you can help them. Sweet or spicy, coffee or crisp, milk or plain, we are all different.

The Yellow Bicycle

Yellow_bicycleThe yellow bicycle, standing out glowing amongst the drabness of the grey and blue Raleighs; a daffodil brightening up the winter mud, showing the way to a spring and summer that we know will come sometime, that we know will blossom in ways unknown, that we hope will bring a bright yellow sun day after day after glistening soft rain. Where has it been, where will it go? Does it spend life shackled to this place through lack of adventurous spirit, or has it ridden the rugged mountain paths, the smooth village roads? Has it seen the ocean, the mountain tops, the clouds from above; has it heard the tickle of the crickets on a warm Greek evening as well as the croak of the frogs in this corner of 24?

The sun, the rain , the frost, the snow – all bringing their own unique and ever-changing experience for the yellow bicycle and her rider. I see them now, yellow bicycle and sun-reddened tourist, trying for harmony, unused muscles eventually complaining before being soothed by the wine, cheese, pate, bread… so thoughtfully prepared for lunch.

Then, on we go, a new adventure this afternoon. Perhaps not the Alps, but an adventure nonetheless. Yellow bicycle and rider experiencing it in their own unique ways.

Being here

This was the first piece I wrote on Sean and Mufida’s course – the prompt was simply to write for 10 minutes ‘introducing yourself’. I really want to edit it, but I won’t because this IS what I wrote.

Accidental, tumbleweed, synchronous, serendipitous – how to describe my presence today? My scientific and regulatory background predisposes me to write formally, succinctly and objectively (whatever that is!), yet I have learned through my journey of personal and others’ development that the intellect is a weak guide compared to the affect.  If I am going to lead, end educate, others towards ‘being more of themselves’ then I need to become more of myself – exploring the desires and fears, trying new things, approaching old ones fomr a different perspective, challenging myself. I do this becasue i want to , not because someone else has told me I need to – I left that Controlling Parent behind over 20 years ago.

While I am here writing whatever, my wife Suzanne is at home writing her stuff, exploring her desire for academic recognition. She needs space for her studies, I need the warmth of the sun on my back – the cold, lazy winter challenged me for the first time ever this winter.

So, serendipity bumped into desire and here I am.

Writing for fun

Why would I want to write for fun? Well, there are a host of reasons, partly because this will become a practice field for developing my more ‘professional’ writing on my other blogs, partly just because it is fun, partly as an exercise in slowing down (I plan to write all these entries in longhand before transcribing them here)… When I was in SW France in April 2013, I was idling around Bergerac when I just happened upon a couple (Sean M Madden and Mufida Kassalias) who were touting a 2 day course in “Writing from the Heart”. It was only about 20 minutes’ away from where I was staying, so I signed up (why not?) and was enthralled with what came out of my head onto paper given some very simple prompts. It was an wonderful two days and set me off on this trail of discovery, I hope you will be happy to journey with me – I’m not seeking approval or anything but do promise to read any comments you want to make.

If you would like to have your writing instincts/ambitions prompted in a gentle supportive way, then Sean and Mufida could be for you – they are running a series of workshops in the UK. Go on, have a look…

I used to be an early adopter…

baby shouting at a laptopI used to be an early adopter – I had one of the very first personal computers in our company, I was a very early user of e-mail (before the Internet was widely heard of), I got a mobile phone before most people and using the technology of the times (I had a laptop and technology that would push my phone calls to wherever I was sitting at the time!) I was remote working before the phrase was even invented.

Now however I find it very rare that I lust after the latest piece of technology. What has happened? I suppose I could have two reasons. Firstly that it was easier to be an early adopter when my employer paid the not insignificant sums necessary to acquire early versions of technology but secondly that it seems less and less frequent that we get real ground breaking paradigm shifters in the way that the personal computer and the mobile phone were.

I have resisted getting an iPhone, for instance, because nobody has managed to show me how they help in a way that can not be done using my old technology phone and my laptop. Having just been gifted and old iPhone3 (note that old in this context means about 24 months) I am still to see what all the fuss is about. If it had a 20 megapixel camera, or a good voice recognition system then maybe I would jump.

We may however be on the verge of the next revolution. I have been using voice recognition software on my laptop for about the last 15 years and it is definitely getting better. However it is still a little clunky and a system that will recognise fractured grammar and colloquialisms as well as accents will wipe the floor and completely transform computing in all its manifestations. The possibility of asking my phone or PC to “send a note to Sally and ask her what  time the meeting about bees is on Friday night” and having the machine recognise all of that and take appropriate action (I don’t really mind if it sends a txt, a msg, an email or eve a voice message) WILL encourage me to jump. Is Siri the answer?

Knowing what you know

Every now and again I end up berating myself – because I have dropped a cup, or (most recently) could not manage to change a lightbulb.

It’s a bit ridiculous isn’t it to beat yourself up because you drop your car keys? So what’s that all about?

I have realised over the years that one thing that really matters to me is competence. I guess that having spent a large part of my career being an expert, someone to whom others referred for my knowledge or expertise, has left its’ mark in my feeling pretty hacked off when I find myself unable to do something – especially when it is something that I can do but for some reason cannot do in that particular moment (like hold a cup or a set of keys!)

GeoffWorld requires competence, it requires that if I take something on I complete the job, it requires that once I take a job on I do it myself. This map of the world is limiting – the difficulty of asking for help, or being able to say “No, I can’t do that so please ask someone else”.

Knowing what you know, what you can do, is really important. By all means take something new on as a learning challenge but beware a tendency to take on anything thrown in your direction – it leads to overload, stress and ultimately poor performance.

Twixtmas

twixtmasHow will YOU spend the days between Christmas and New Year? Twixtmas was devised by the Flexible Thinking Forum, a not-for-profit initiative with the kind support of GREEN Communications.

Perhaps you can take this time to think, to act – for yourself, for others.